Interview Tom Stahl
TOM: Hello Lady Felicitas, great that we have found time for this interview today!
LF: Hi Tom, yes it is!
TOM: How old were you when you found out that you have dominant and sadistic passions and how did they show out?
LF: Since I was a child. Playing cowboys and red indians I favorized bondage a lot and I was terribly annoyed everytime I was supposed to be the one tied up, I wanted to tie THEM up, not that way *lol*! Somewhen during my adolescence that sexual part joined it and I was pretty confused about it because magazines and tv showed the “normal sexuality” which didn’t show what I felt and what I wanted. Some years later I found out that there are more who are like myself and those who and antagonists. Being curious I started to learn lots of different practices, most of them I like and I only do those ones I like.
TOM: What did you do before you followed your vocation being Domina?
LF: Almost from the beginning of my professional life I was self employed, always jobs I had a lot to do with other people. No one is like the other, all are being treated individually and I take my time to get to know them as good as well – best way. This is why I like to have an intensive talk before a session takes place. I’m interested in this human being who is sitting next to me, no matter if man or woman. I have the special gift to “understand” people emphatically, which means to see this one’s world through his/her eyes in these moments, to feel what he/she is feeling right that moment and having this insight I decide within a session what the next thing is I’m going to do.
TOM: What made you making your private passion being your profession?
LF: I have a very wide range of interests within BDSM and so it is impossible to live them with only one partner. I would have needed more partners but I believe in faithfulness within a partnership and having more than one partner I would have acted against myself and against my convictions. So my decision was due and being a professional Domina I can do all the things I love to do with different ones without doing things conflicting me. It was a good decision I never regretted!
TOM: How would you describe yourself?
LF: Impulsive. Empatically. Humorous. Self-aware and self-sure. Unpredictable. Not calculable. Dominant within sessions and all-day life, too. I like the quiet ways more, you can compare it with a cat... those who know me well say I’m like a cat actually.
TOM: Which feedback do you get from society when you tell them that you work as a Domina?
LF: The feedback is mostly positive, from family and friends as well. I like those positive reactions and asking me about this and that concerning BDSM. It is very surprising how many people are practicing SM without knowing they do. SM actually starts with blind folds, with light bondages. Of course there are people who don’t have any understanding and tolerance for this kind of passion but this is ok for me. Not everybody likes everything.
TOM: Do you have a spezial fetish or a favourite practice?
LF: I am a passionate sadist, I like to „torture“ my „victims“ ;-) – in a physical and in a psychic way as well. What I also love a lot are sissifications!
TOM: What would the perfect slave be alike – how would he have to be?
LF: The perfect slave is not perfect. Everything perfect bores me, I like personality and I like the proud of a slave, proud which I won’t break – I will bend it – a lot, but not break it... The slave – serving not because he wants to serve – serving because I want him to!
TOM: On your website the Item „SM-Guidance“ sounds very interesting and promising. What excactly is it about?
LF: It doesn’t matter if couples or singles, relationships for SM-play only or partnerships, no matter if dominant or submissive or whatever – sometimes there are questions or difficult situations that can’t be solved with people around one. People can contact me when they are looking for a good advice or want to learn new pracitces.
TOM: Is there a certain fantasy you never lived before?
LF: Not at the moment. Fantasies are there to be filled with live and to be brought to reality. And this is what I do with my fantasies and I will keep on doing that *SMile*! Somebody who lives and experiences the life with all of the senses like I do it will never have a lack of fantasies ;-) ...
TOM: What is absolutely impossible for you within a SM-session?
LF: To work on wishlists. I hate that! Sure I’m listening when the one who has come to have a session with me tells me about his fantasies – fantasies are what make a session great! But like to check boxes item by item like an actor who has learned his script by heart – no way! My favorite way is it when the slave tells me about the experiences he has mad